Why some guys can't impress girls

Some guys just don't know to approach a girl. What hurdles do they face?

If you have passed out of college, here is a character you must have met sometime or the other. It is that of a guy who falls for a girl but doesn't know how to approach her. With wobbly knees and besotted eyes, he waits for her at the bus stop, hoping that she would smile at him for a nanosecond. If he bumps into her in the classroom, he starts getting uneasy the moment she starts chatting with some other guy. He is often bullied for being a permanent member of the club of 'universal brotherhood', that is, a guy who turns into every girl's brother because he fails to convert his crush into a relationship.

What are his major problems?
Imagining relationships: Whenever he falls for a girl – and he generally falls for too many girls – he tends to believe that she is in love with some other guy. Even if the girl has a casual conversation with a guy, our friend assumes that the two of them are on the verge of a relationship, if not in one already. That multiplies his hesitation manifold, and his emotions remain unstated till the girl actually finds someone. And, that someone turns out to be someone else.

Ladies first: This character is a moron. Overconfident and suffering from megalomania, he believes that every second girl has the hots for him. He doesn't have the guts to propose, but tells the world that the girl should be the one who ought to come forward. That never happens, and he continues to vegetate.

Too good: A victim of inferiority complex, this guy manages to pedestalise every girl he falls for. She is so good that she is beyond reach: that thought keeps his lips sealed, whether or not the girl is a Meg Ryan lookalike. He continues to torment himself without making any effort to reach out. She, you are right, remains clueless.

Everything in life takes some effort. So do relationships. Most seem to know that, barring those who wait near the bus stop, hoping for that smile that means nothing.